Rite of Passage

Someone recently asked me what advice I would give my daughter growing up. 

I didn't have an answer. 

I don't have the answers yet and I'm still growing up myself, but if there was ever anything, I would want her to take in and let seep deep into her little soul it would be this. 

People are going to come and go. 

You can't make everyone stay and not everyone will like you. 

Friends will back away without reason and boyfriends will leave without warning and people will drift away without your knowledge but that is no reflection on you, it's just guiding. 

The kindest thing I have ever done for myself is to truly accept that I can't please everyone and I don't need to. 

I know I'm not everyone's cup of tea and that's ok. 

If I was everyone's cup of tea, I'd be a mug. 

That kind of peace of mind that I've gifted myself has been a complete game changer in this life where I've always allowed anxiety to stalk my every move. 

Now it still walks behind me, but with enough distance for me to run away from it if I allow myself to.

I read a quote recently that said " The woman you're becoming will cost you people, relationships, and material things, choose her over everything." 

One day, my little girl, after wasting a life time craving the respect of everyone in this world, you will see the reflection of the only woman you ever have to please looking back at you and you will be filled with all the respect you need. 

Save yourself the torment, 

And learn to love her now.

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